On Death, Dying and our Role now.
I was reflecting on a piece on death and dying that I wrote in the past. If I am going to understand the process of transformation during a life, it seems that there is a need to also understand the experience of death. Just having torn some cartilage in my left intercostal area, and in the process of healing, the pain has been a reminder of my daughter’s pain before she died. Yet, somehow, she was able to experience the pain without fear.
Whatever the state of life, the heart will want to explore what is going on, with ourselves, with those we love, with the planet. That is natural as long as it doesn’t interfere with the ability to stay present. That certainly is my current challenge, yet all must be divinely ordained for evolution. Otherwise, why are we here?
The natural cycle of birth, life as we know it on Earth and death is inescapable. If young, you may not think about it much. If you are reaching the later years of life, if you are ill, or if you are caregiving someone who is, you may think about it a lot. And the, there are many of us who think about it anyway.
When some years ago I was facilitating the Empowerment Process with a sweet, feisty young lady with cystic fibrosis, an incurable lung disease which compromises breathing and daily activity, she never once evidenced any fear or anxiety about dying young. We never addressed her limited lifestyle or the future the disease offered. We worked on relationship issues, and the reactions that others must feel when they learned of her condition.
That, of course, was my conundrum, being afraid of this reality of ensuing death, watching my own girl in pain and slowly moving courageously into the dying process. With advanced sarcoma affecting breathing and many physical conditions, lots of narcotics and CBD and eventual neuropathy, it was amazing to me the love she continually drew to her. Her devoted friends kept on serving, helping, night and day, until the finality.
Now, it was up to me to move out the suffering of losing both kids, to a place of divine light. Not an easy task. As in my first book which I wrote a few years after Dan took his life, How to Hug a Light Being: A Spiritual Journey, I never seek to compare my loss with anyone else’s. The choice is mine alone how to handle what has already happened.
My belief is that the relief the kids gained in this transformation of leaving the body, from being out of pain, is that they are well cared for and are doing much work from where they live now without the confines of a physical and emotional body. Those that have passed over are generally fine. It is those left behind that need to find peace.
Since many of Dan’s and Deb’s friends have shared with me their visions and conversations with them on the other side, I know that they are continuing their passionate work. Perhaps Dan and Deb are even more successful serving the planet than they could have been here.
As Beings currently on this Earth, we need to honor our own life. Gratitude and love are so needed. Can we hold that frequency for ourselves and others? I feel that we don’t need to die in order to fully discover who we are. Let’s give ourselves the gift of living more fully everyday while we are still here.
To listen to the audio or read on your digital device or the paperback, How to Hug a Light Being: A Spiritual Journey, you can go here: https://www.amazon.com/How-Hug-Light-Being-Spiritual/dp/0578653435
To listen to Deborah’s inspiring memorial celebration, you can listen here on you tube: https://youtu.be/tagIGtpVp5M
The Empowerment Process: Discover a Powerful Way to Transform and Heal -https://www.amazon.com/Empowerment-Process-Discover-Powerful-Transform/dp/1499352689