We all have layers upon layers of stories that fill our lives. Sometimes we create them in such a way that they are meant to justify a negative event, feeling, or behavior. “Who would you be without your story”, is a famous line from Byron Katie. It’s worth thinking about.
When we transform with the Empowerment Process, we need to look to our story to remind ourselves what we need to release to BE without it. Can you release your need to justify your actions, your feelings, your beliefs? Are you able to take care of your damaged heart?
Let’s take a closer look. What are the feelings about your inability to move through your issue?
I personally “despise” being trapped again and again with the same old behavior when I feel I am not being understood in the way I mean to be. My values dictate that I only mean well, and yet that isn’t what I convey when I get impatient, frustrated, and even express anger.
What happens, is that as the old emotional pattern gets stimulated, we may feel such inner resistance that we can’t hold the feeling inside. The intensity moves out into the environment displaying inappropriate behavior. The outcome may not only damage the heart of another, but cause an after fall of self-remorse and guilt, hoping that the recipient will be quick to forgive. Of course, self-forgiveness is needed as well, and the disempowering emotions need to transform. Just knowing and accepting this fact is a great step toward healing. With a change in behavior, it’s easier for someone else to respond with forgiveness.
Let’s rewrite our stories as we transform our old reactions and behaviors. Then a deeper layer of love and compassion will soften the arena for new beginnings. It’s never too late!